Where’s Joe?
I know I have not written for quite some time. I have been
quite sad about Joe. It’s allowed. I can’t possibly sit here
and write a bunch of stuff about Joe. If you want to ask me
anything about Joe, I am easily found. Susan and I just
got through Christmas. If you didn’t know Susan and
Joe’s relationship, I can tell you that they both made each
other smile, they loved each other, we’re very special
friends to each other.
So I as I reflect today on New Years Eve, I wait for Joe
to come up the driveway. I’ve been waiting for months,
still a no show. I’ve never been so sad. If I ever was so sad,
I would know that Joe would be driving up the driveway
to be there for me. Where’s Joe?
Thanks to all of my family and friends. You guys are so
great! So perceptive about this aging hardass and his tears.
Susan, Susan, Susan…..I Love You
Happy New Year In 2010.
Give Peace A Chance
Just want to let you know that I am thinking of you both with an understanding of how you are feeling, it just plain hurts sometimes, I get it, I know! I have a friend in the Crowsnest Pass who is experiencing kind of the same sadness right now and although it sounds like a “cliche” to say TIME is your best healer, it really is your best defense, it is true. Give yourself time to mourn his loss, your sadness. Cry, cry lots!!!
I am going to tell you what I just e-mailed her, that the first year is a bitch to get through, the second year you kind of sorta have a slight edge on things (but not a hell of a lot easier) and the third year you really start to get some insight into it all and by the 5th year, 7th year, 10th year, you soon forget how painful that first Christmas or New Years was to get through without them, you never forget them, the pain is just not there like it use to be, the wound heals!!!! Weather it be the loss of a best friend, a child, a parent, a sibling, separation, divorce, it is NEVER EASY. The pain is real and it ‘fucking’ hurts somedays, infact unbearable at times, but I do beleive that there are things you can do to try and help eliminate some of the pain over the longhaul so that you don’t fall into a depression which we can so easily do. Reaching out to someone who understands is probably one of the kindest things you can do for yourself, so if you ever need to share, I am here for you both.
with love and endless blessings
Catherine
p.s. keep talking to Joe and let him know how much you miss him, it’s okay to talk out loud when no-one is around , an even if they are,’fuck’m!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hope my words are a source of inspiration if only for a brief moment!
Comment by Cathy Sikina — January 15, 2010 @ 6:35 pm
Cathy, what a amazing comment. You are so right, loss, is not easy, and not comparable to anyone elses. But it is important to acknowledge it.
Comment by Nancy — January 20, 2010 @ 9:02 am