Comments on: Where’s Joe? http://bobandsusan.net/2009/12/31/wheres-joe/ Sun, 01 Aug 2010 01:49:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Nancy http://bobandsusan.net/2009/12/31/wheres-joe/comment-page-1/#comment-1182 Nancy Wed, 20 Jan 2010 17:02:13 +0000 http://bobandsusan.net/?p=131#comment-1182 Cathy, what a amazing comment. You are so right, loss, is not easy, and not comparable to anyone elses. But it is important to acknowledge it. Cathy, what a amazing comment. You are so right, loss, is not easy, and not comparable to anyone elses. But it is important to acknowledge it.

]]> By: Cathy Sikina http://bobandsusan.net/2009/12/31/wheres-joe/comment-page-1/#comment-1173 Cathy Sikina Sat, 16 Jan 2010 02:35:01 +0000 http://bobandsusan.net/?p=131#comment-1173 Just want to let you know that I am thinking of you both with an understanding of how you are feeling, it just plain hurts sometimes, I get it, I know! I have a friend in the Crowsnest Pass who is experiencing kind of the same sadness right now and although it sounds like a "cliche" to say TIME is your best healer, it really is your best defense, it is true. Give yourself time to mourn his loss, your sadness. Cry, cry lots!!! I am going to tell you what I just e-mailed her, that the first year is a bitch to get through, the second year you kind of sorta have a slight edge on things (but not a hell of a lot easier) and the third year you really start to get some insight into it all and by the 5th year, 7th year, 10th year, you soon forget how painful that first Christmas or New Years was to get through without them, you never forget them, the pain is just not there like it use to be, the wound heals!!!! Weather it be the loss of a best friend, a child, a parent, a sibling, separation, divorce, it is NEVER EASY. The pain is real and it 'fucking' hurts somedays, infact unbearable at times, but I do beleive that there are things you can do to try and help eliminate some of the pain over the longhaul so that you don't fall into a depression which we can so easily do. Reaching out to someone who understands is probably one of the kindest things you can do for yourself, so if you ever need to share, I am here for you both. with love and endless blessings Catherine p.s. keep talking to Joe and let him know how much you miss him, it's okay to talk out loud when no-one is around , an even if they are,'fuck'm!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hope my words are a source of inspiration if only for a brief moment! Just want to let you know that I am thinking of you both with an understanding of how you are feeling, it just plain hurts sometimes, I get it, I know! I have a friend in the Crowsnest Pass who is experiencing kind of the same sadness right now and although it sounds like a “cliche” to say TIME is your best healer, it really is your best defense, it is true. Give yourself time to mourn his loss, your sadness. Cry, cry lots!!!
I am going to tell you what I just e-mailed her, that the first year is a bitch to get through, the second year you kind of sorta have a slight edge on things (but not a hell of a lot easier) and the third year you really start to get some insight into it all and by the 5th year, 7th year, 10th year, you soon forget how painful that first Christmas or New Years was to get through without them, you never forget them, the pain is just not there like it use to be, the wound heals!!!! Weather it be the loss of a best friend, a child, a parent, a sibling, separation, divorce, it is NEVER EASY. The pain is real and it ‘fucking’ hurts somedays, infact unbearable at times, but I do beleive that there are things you can do to try and help eliminate some of the pain over the longhaul so that you don’t fall into a depression which we can so easily do. Reaching out to someone who understands is probably one of the kindest things you can do for yourself, so if you ever need to share, I am here for you both.
with love and endless blessings
Catherine
p.s. keep talking to Joe and let him know how much you miss him, it’s okay to talk out loud when no-one is around , an even if they are,’fuck’m!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! hope my words are a source of inspiration if only for a brief moment!

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